Sunday, March 04, 2018

人的天性

「對女人的特殊的愛必須不違背對人的普遍的愛。詩人們歌頌這種對女人的特殊的愛,女人們自己也認為這種愛是美好的,但如果它不是建築在對人類的愛的基礎之上,它就沒有資格稱為愛。它就只是一種動物性的肉欲,並且常常轉變為恨。」
「任何僅僅建築在個人幸福基礎上的婚姻,都不可避免地要導致爭吵,就像在動物以及與動物很少區別的人中間,不爭吵不打鬥就順順當當地獲取食物是不可能的一樣。」
「基督徒只有當他知道他與女人的結合不會產生任何痛苦的時候,他才會感到那個女人的吸引力。」
「難道能這樣嗎?」尤里反問道「難道人能控制自己的迷戀嗎?」
「當意志被迷戀操縱了的時候,這是不可能的。但我們能保持振作和清醒,不讓意志被迷戀操縱。」「情欲能夠變得非常微弱,因為它的基礎是對女兒、對母親、對姐妹的愛的感情。為什麼你不願意相信在男人身上可以培養和鞏固這樣一種對女人的感情,它就像對母親、女兒和姐妹的感情一樣,而夫妻間的愛情可以在這種感情的基礎上成長起來。」「只有當他感到自己的愛情不會傷害任何人時,他才會允許這種感情在心裡產生。」
「人的天性是怎樣的?人除了動物性以外還有理性,不錯,我所說的這種對女人的態度是不符合人的動物性的,但它符合人的理性。當人用他的智力為他的動物性服務時,他就比動物更壞,甚至會強姦和亂倫,而這是任何一種動物都不會做的事。但當用自己的理性去駕馭動物性,當動物性為理性服務的時候,也只有在那時,人才能獲得使自己感到滿意的幸福。」

--《迎著光,向光明邁進》托爾斯泰

Sunday, September 14, 2014

I no longer have patience


“I no longer have patience for certain things, not because I’ve become arrogant, but simply because I reached a point in my life where I do not want to waste more time with what displeases me or hurts me. I have no patience for cynicism, excessive criticism and demands of any nature. I lost the will to please those who do not like me, to love those who do not love me and to smile at those who do not want to smile at me. I no longer spend a single minute on those who lie or want to manipulate. I decided not to coexist anymore with pretense, hypocrisy, dishonesty and cheap praise. I do not tolerate selective erudition nor academic arrogance. I do not adjust either to popular gossiping. I hate conflict and comparisons. I believe in a world of opposites and that’s why I avoid people with rigid and inflexible personalities. In friendship I dislike the lack of loyalty and betrayal. I do not get along with those who do not know how to give a compliment or a word of encouragement. Exaggerations bore me and I have difficulty accepting those who do not like animals. And on top of everything I have no patience for anyone who does not deserve my patience.” _ Meryl Streep


http://ioadicaeu.wordpress.com/2014/07/31/i-no-longer-have-patience/

Thursday, July 17, 2014

無論跑步與人生都沒有所謂失敗

我學到無論跑步與人生都沒有所謂失敗,只要你拒絕停下來。
--波士頓馬拉松冠軍,安比‧波爾富

I have learned that there is no failure in running, or in life, as long as you keep moving.
--Amby Burfoot

run a marathon

如果你想跑步,跑個一英里就好。
如果你想體驗不同的人生,
那就跑場馬拉松吧。
--現代長跑之父,艾米爾‧扎托貝克

If you want to run, run a mile. If you want to experience a different life, run a marathon."
--Emil Zatopek

對這些自我意識太強的人來說

我強迫自己微笑以對這些負面的誤會,我知道自己過去的形象太黑暗,有許多人堅信我不可能好起來、不可能走出來;對這些自我意識太強的人來說,我今日的正面、陽光就形同給了他們重重一拳。他們會試圖用各種方式、用各種難聽的字眼把我打回黑暗以證明自己的判斷。

--歐陽靖

完整

如果你正面對一堆挫折與不被預期的改變
那麼 應該慶幸著
我們的生命將如同小說一般
如此完整且值得回味


--方文山

Wednesday, July 09, 2014

If you're going

If you're going to stay, stay forever.
If you're going to leave, then do it today.
If you're going to change, change for the better.
And if you're going to talk, make sure you mean what you say.